MY BLOGS

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A Gen Z’s Guide to Not Falling Apart

Is My Anxiety Going to Be the End of Me?

I was scrolling through my work messages from this time last year, and my heart sank. Opportunities I missed not because I wasn’t capable, but because my anxiety convinced me I wasn’t ready. The worst part? I’m still doing it. Still hesitating. Still letting fear write checks my potential could easily cash.Take LinkedIn, for example. I used to post regularly, sharing thoughts, engaging, building something. Then my account got flagged again and now just opening the app makes my pulse spike. So I...

Suffering Wisely

There is a kind of suffering that hollows you out, leaves you gasping for air in the middle of the night, makes you forget your own name. And then there is the kind you choose, the temporary discomfort that leads somewhere worth reaching.The difference between the two? One breaks you. The other builds you.We’ve all been fed the lie that suffering is noble. That if it hurts, it must be worth it. But that’s not true. Not all pain is purposeful. Some of it is just pain, useless, grinding, the kind...

100% Reason to Remember My Name

They say life is a numbers game. If that’s true, here’s my formula so far:10% luck – The kind that comes when you’ve cried so hard your ribs ache, and then your phone dings with one message that says, “I see you.” The job offer that arrives right as the savings run out. The friend who shows up unannounced with food when you forgot to eat for two days.20% skill – All the things I learned while falling apart. How to write a cover letter through panic attacks. How to smile when asked “How are you?”...

How to Survive Lagos Landlords (Or Any Landlord, Really)

Let’s be real—renting in Lagos is an extreme sport. One day you’re a responsible adult paying rent on time, the next you’re begging for running water like it’s a privilege. If landlords were a Netflix show, it would be a dystopian thriller where the house always wins.The water situation alone deserves its own horror movie. You wake up to dry taps, your landlord claims “there’s no light to pump water”, yet somehow their own tank is always overflowing. You start collecting pure water sachets like...

Too Long or Too Late

There’s a special kind of grief that comes with releasing someone you once thought would be in your life forever. Not the clean cut of a betrayal, but the slow ache of a connection that just... fades. The texts go unanswered. The inside jokes land flat. You realize you’ve become an archivist of a friendship that no longer exists, clinging to receipts of old love like they’ll magically reanimate what’s gone.Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop keeping score.We hold on because: We’ve kno...

A Gentle Reminder for When You’re Disappointed in Yourself

A Quick Note Before We Begin:Happy new month, love. 🎉Whether May was kind to you or left you bruised, this is your fresh page. No need to rush. No need to fix everything at once. Just breathe.By May 2025, I had decided to do something different with my life. I was ready. I signed up for the QA Mentorship program sponsored by QACE Academy Team, prepped my notes, cleared my schedule or so I thought. Then mid-May arrived like a truck with no brakes. My LinkedIn account got suspended without warning...

Am I a Failure or Is the World Failing Me?

I woke up on Monday, May 26th, feeling light. The kind of morning where the air smells like possibility, and your to-do list doesn’t feel like a death sentence. I even made my bed, a rare act of optimism.By Tuesday, the weight was back. Not the slow, familiar creep of stress, but the sudden kind, the way a wave knocks you over before you realize the tide has changed. My LinkedIn account, the one I’d been carefully rebuilding after the last restriction, was locked again. "Suspicious activity," th...

When the Mask Slips

We’ve all witnessed it:It’s not that power corrupts. It reveals. Like sunlight hitting a prism, authority shows what was already there, just hidden.The science behind the transformation:But here’s what matters most: This isn’t inevitable. Awareness is the antidote.What helps when you’re hurting: Remember it’s not about youTheir behavior reflects their inner world, not your worth. The kindest people often take the blame, don’t.Protect your lightJournal. Call the friend who knew you before this me...

The Invisible Tax of Being Nigerian

There’s an unspoken rule in the global marketplace: You can be talented, skilled, and hungry but if your IP address says "Nigeria," prepare to work twice as hard for half as much.Early this month:My LinkedIn was restricted after my engagement grew "too fast" (apparently, Nigerians aren’t allowed to go viral).My Fiverr account was blocked with no explanation (just a silent "lol, try again" from the algorithm).Learning platforms I needed were geo-blocked, as if knowledge has borders.International...

Investing in Your Happiness

We treat happiness like an afterthought, something to chase after we’ve hit our goals, after we’ve "made it." But what if I told you that joy isn’t a destination, it’s fuel?Last week, I closed my laptop at 3PM, ignored my to-do list, and ate amala at my favorite spot like a woman who hadn’t just refreshed her bank app 17 times. For two hours, I wasn’t "building my future." I was living my present. And guess what? The world didn’t end. My deadlines didn’t collapse. But I felt human again.Truth: Y...

How I Do Everything Like a Pro (Or Not)

I stepped into 2025 with work piled up to my neck like a Lagos hawker's wares. There wasn't any 'Detty December' or vacation for me - just burnout and the weird satisfaction of being "busy." Fast forward to March, and I was knee-deep in debt, staring at my school fees like "God abeg, we need to talk."Now it's May, and guess what? I'm fully pivoting into tech - going from technical writer to Product Manager and Quality Assurance Engineer overnight. Omo, life no balance at all. But here's how I'm...

Ment or Malaria

There’s a thin line between “hustle fatigue” and “malaria symptoms” in this country, and honestly? I can’t tell which is which sometimes.One minute, you’re grinding like you want to break generational curses; next minute, you’re shivering like 9 year old you who got caught stealing fried fish from your mom’s banga stew, wondering: “Is this burnout or am I just broke and sick?”Welcome to “Ment or Malaria?”, your unofficial guide to surviving the Nigerian hustle without ending up on a hospital dri...

2025 said 'Let me humble you' and I said 'NOT TODAY, SATAN

Me, January 1st, 2025: "This is my year! New beginnings! Growth!"2025 by May: "What the helly?"Y’all. Five months into 2025, and I’ve already:At some point, I asked God: "Are we doing character development or punishment?" But plot twist; I’m still standing. Not thriving, not "winning," just here, alive and stubborn, with my garri and a WiFi connection.2025’s Cheap Lessons (Because We Must Find Meaning):The Bounce-Back (Garri-Powered Edition):Am I "better than ever"? Abeg, let’s not lie. But:Why...

Willow's Library

Welcome to Briar U: The Ultimate Guide to Elle Kennedy’s Off-Campus Series

If you love steamy new adult romance with heart, humor, and hockey players who are as charming as they are trouble, then Elle Kennedy’s Off-Campus series is your next obsession. This binge-worthy series follows a group of college hockey players and the women who turn their worlds upside down, on and off the ice.Whether you’re new to Briar University or a longtime fan ready to relive the drama, this guide breaks down every book, couple, and unforgettable moment in the series.Each book focuses on...

Hot Takes & Spicy Roasts

Welcome to Willows Library’s first-ever Book Roast Session where we take beloved bestsellers, sprinkle them with sarcasm, and serve them piping hot. Disclaimer: This is all in good fun! (But also… I’m not entirely wrong.)The Roast: Ah, Twilight—the book that made stalking romantic and emotional manipulation a love language. Bella Swan’s greatest achievement? Breathing. Edward Cullen? Over 100 years old and still hung up on high school. The real villain? Jacob imprinting on a baby. Sweet home Ala...

Kate Daniels

Before we dive into why Kate Daniels is the urban fantasy heroine we all deserve, let's take a moment to honor the brilliant minds who created her: Ilona Andrews. This powerhouse writing duo (Ilona Gordon and Andrew Gordon) has crafted one of the most immersive, action-packed, and emotionally satisfying series in modern fantasy. Their worldbuilding is meticulous, their characters unforgettable, and their ability to balance heart-stopping action with razor-sharp wit is unparalleled.Now, let's tal...

Revamping Willows Library

Hello, fellow bookworms! If you’ve been following Willows Library for a while, you might have noticed that this space has been a little… eclectic. While I love sharing my thoughts on various topics, my heart has always belonged to books, the smell of the pages, the thrill of a new story, and the joy of discussing that plot twist with fellow readers.So, it’s time for a change.I’m excited to announce that Willows Library is officially transforming into a book lover’s paradise, a cozy corner of the...